Hello @MadBel and welcome back to the forum. I know it's likely bittersweet that you are back and engaging with this group however we appreciate your voice and are here to support you. I'm so sorry for what you have been going through and how information has been 'revealed' to you. I was told by my oncologist following my debulking surgery and chemo that I should consider OC as a 'chronic disease'. She said that it is rare that the words "cured" will be used. I have to admit I almost fainted when she said that and then I guess I took a pause and considered that there are many other 'chronic diseases' out there that people deal with. While I don't like the way it was positioned it at least helped me to wrap my head around it.
I was told at the end of my 6th infusion two years ago, that if I have carboplatin again, they will be on 'high alert' as reactions typically happen after the 6th infusion. They also told me that BRCA positive folks tend to react faster than non-BRCA folks. Who knew. When you last had the carboplatin, did they do the "de-sensitization protocols" e.g., slower infusion and pre-meds (steroids and anti-histamines)? I'm guessing they did but just curious. I can only imagine code bluing was horrifying.
Have you spoken to your oncologist since you saw the paperwork said it wasn't 'curable' and that they were using the terms "palliative care"? I know you said it's been "weird" but I wasn't quite sure what that meant. There are other chemotherapy drugs out there. Your medical team would be the ones that would speak to those based on your personal situation. As well, have they discussed participation in any clinical trials? Those have been options for other Teal Sisters in this forum. I'm also curious as to what basis they've made their statements. What does your bloodwork say? What about CT or other scans? I'd go back and push to find out what the next steps are and perhaps discuss better communication protocols from their end.
The term "palliative" is also a scary one and it's a shame they added it as a label without clarity. For someone with a serious illness it can mean so many things. It's about receiving specialized care focused on improving quality of life including symptom management, pain and stress all done alongside curative treatments. It can be discussed at any stage of a disease. I would definitely go back and speak to your oncologist to get clarity on why that term was used.
I hope you will get some answers. I do appreciate you sharing your story and I hope, like @Tanya Mac that others Teal Sisters will be able to weigh in with some counsel and advise.
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