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 Hi ladies,

I'm just venting/verbalizing some things I cannot share with my spouse as it would make him sad.

I'm sure at least some of you have been in/felt similar at times.

We have a lovebird that we got one year ago and two weeks ago we fell in love with another bird, a conure. So, we decided to adopt him. Conure birds can live up to 25 yrs if well loved and cared for. I have been feeling stupid the past two weeks as I feel, why am I getting a bird that can live that long when I don't know how long I will live. 

I seem to feel guilty about planning for the future when I don't know what the future holds for me.

I fear, who will care for my birds if I leave this earth early. Perhaps these feelings are related to my upcoming 2 year post surgery scan on Monday.

I realize these feelings don't compare to what some of you are going through. I just struggle with guilt, feel irresponsible for getting the second bird.  Then I tell myself, what? Am I supposed to wait till the 5 yr mark to live my life.

Rant over

Thanks for reading : )

 Hi ladies,

I'm just venting/verbalizing some things I cannot share with my spouse as it would make him sad.

I'm sure at least some of you have been in/felt similar at times.

We have a lovebird that we got one year ago and two weeks ago we fell in love with another bird, a conure. So, we decided to adopt him. Conure birds can live up to 25 yrs if well loved and cared for. I have been feeling stupid the past two weeks as I feel, why am I getting a bird that can live that long when I don't know how long I will live. 

I seem to feel guilty about planning for the future when I don't know what the future holds for me.

I fear, who will care for my birds if I leave this earth early. Perhaps these feelings are related to my upcoming 2 year post surgery scan on Monday.

I realize these feelings don't compare to what some of you are going through. I just struggle with guilt, feel irresponsible for getting the second bird.  Then I tell myself, what? Am I supposed to wait till the 5 yr mark to live my life.

Rant over

Thanks for reading : )

Melissa,

  Alwayslearning beautifully articulated supportive words as well as a truth that pertains to all of us human beings. There is no certainty to how long anyone lives; I wrestle with this issue too, especially when I am anticipating another medical test or meeting. It is challenging to stay in the present, but when I do I feel better and enjoy what is right in front of me. Your new member of the pet family will give you many moments of joy which may last longer than you think. Love and joy are very sustaining, in my view. 

Our thoughts and emotions are important, but are not predictors of how life will be. I remind myself of this as well. 

 I try to practice a mantra "be here now" and it really helps me stay focused on this day or this moment. Thanks for sharing an issue that many of us can resonate with! 

Leslie 

 Hi ladies,

I'm just venting/verbalizing some things I cannot share with my spouse as it would make him sad.

I'm sure at least some of you have been in/felt similar at times.

We have a lovebird that we got one year ago and two weeks ago we fell in love with another bird, a conure. So, we decided to adopt him. Conure birds can live up to 25 yrs if well loved and cared for. I have been feeling stupid the past two weeks as I feel, why am I getting a bird that can live that long when I don't know how long I will live. 

I seem to feel guilty about planning for the future when I don't know what the future holds for me.

I fear, who will care for my birds if I leave this earth early. Perhaps these feelings are related to my upcoming 2 year post surgery scan on Monday.

I realize these feelings don't compare to what some of you are going through. I just struggle with guilt, feel irresponsible for getting the second bird.  Then I tell myself, what? Am I supposed to wait till the 5 yr mark to live my life.

Rant over

Thanks for reading : )

@melissa I get it.  I feel like my husband just thinks get thru chemo, surgery removed everything, you'll be fine.  Where I think I can't make future plans for 10 years down the road because I don't know when the next recurrence will happen.  I know I have to get that out of my head and take one day at a time but it's hard right now.  

Melissa,

  Alwayslearning beautifully articulated supportive words as well as a truth that pertains to all of us human beings. There is no certainty to how long anyone lives; I wrestle with this issue too, especially when I am anticipating another medical test or meeting. It is challenging to stay in the present, but when I do I feel better and enjoy what is right in front of me. Your new member of the pet family will give you many moments of joy which may last longer than you think. Love and joy are very sustaining, in my view. 

Our thoughts and emotions are important, but are not predictors of how life will be. I remind myself of this as well. 

 I try to practice a mantra "be here now" and it really helps me stay focused on this day or this moment. Thanks for sharing an issue that many of us can resonate with! 

Leslie 

 Hi ladies,

I'm just venting/verbalizing some things I cannot share with my spouse as it would make him sad.

I'm sure at least some of you have been in/felt similar at times.

We have a lovebird that we got one year ago and two weeks ago we fell in love with another bird, a conure. So, we decided to adopt him. Conure birds can live up to 25 yrs if well loved and cared for. I have been feeling stupid the past two weeks as I feel, why am I getting a bird that can live that long when I don't know how long I will live. 

I seem to feel guilty about planning for the future when I don't know what the future holds for me.

I fear, who will care for my birds if I leave this earth early. Perhaps these feelings are related to my upcoming 2 year post surgery scan on Monday.

I realize these feelings don't compare to what some of you are going through. I just struggle with guilt, feel irresponsible for getting the second bird.  Then I tell myself, what? Am I supposed to wait till the 5 yr mark to live my life.

Rant over

Thanks for reading : )

Thank you ladies for your kind and wise words.

@alwayslearning you couldn't be more right. Nobody on this earth knows when there time will be up. I think, for me one of the hardest things to do on a daily basis is live for today.

I'm at the hospital now waiting for my scan, and I'm happy to report my level of anxiety is significantly lower than it has been in the past.

@JoanEG I am happy to report they have renovated the CT department and the " bullet" holes are gone : )

@melissa I get it.  I feel like my husband just thinks get thru chemo, surgery removed everything, you'll be fine.  Where I think I can't make future plans for 10 years down the road because I don't know when the next recurrence will happen.  I know I have to get that out of my head and take one day at a time but it's hard right now.  

Melissa,

  Alwayslearning beautifully articulated supportive words as well as a truth that pertains to all of us human beings. There is no certainty to how long anyone lives; I wrestle with this issue too, especially when I am anticipating another medical test or meeting. It is challenging to stay in the present, but when I do I feel better and enjoy what is right in front of me. Your new member of the pet family will give you many moments of joy which may last longer than you think. Love and joy are very sustaining, in my view. 

Our thoughts and emotions are important, but are not predictors of how life will be. I remind myself of this as well. 

 I try to practice a mantra "be here now" and it really helps me stay focused on this day or this moment. Thanks for sharing an issue that many of us can resonate with! 

Leslie 

 Hi ladies,

I'm just venting/verbalizing some things I cannot share with my spouse as it would make him sad.

I'm sure at least some of you have been in/felt similar at times.

We have a lovebird that we got one year ago and two weeks ago we fell in love with another bird, a conure. So, we decided to adopt him. Conure birds can live up to 25 yrs if well loved and cared for. I have been feeling stupid the past two weeks as I feel, why am I getting a bird that can live that long when I don't know how long I will live. 

I seem to feel guilty about planning for the future when I don't know what the future holds for me.

I fear, who will care for my birds if I leave this earth early. Perhaps these feelings are related to my upcoming 2 year post surgery scan on Monday.

I realize these feelings don't compare to what some of you are going through. I just struggle with guilt, feel irresponsible for getting the second bird.  Then I tell myself, what? Am I supposed to wait till the 5 yr mark to live my life.

Rant over

Thanks for reading : )