Hello Survivor Sisters
I am recovering well from stage 3 Ovarian Cancer. Had my surgery and chemo at Sunny Brook in Toronto. I am from a smaller city in Northern Ontario.
I am scheduled for ostomy reversal Nov 30 th.
Every time I attempt intercourse, it is not comfortable, I have been using coconut oil with lavender essential oil as a lubricant, but it is still uncomfortable. Wondering if this is a common occurance for others.
yours in not feeling it!
The oils are what I would have suggested as tissue is dry and sensitive after considerable 'time off'. Store brand baby oil gel worked for me and certainly helped prepare me for my internal check-ups. It's thicker than oils. It would be helpful if doctors explained our vaginas may be 'shorter' after radical hysterectomies - just a thought?
BTW Congratulations and good luck with the ostomy reversal ... well done.
I was wondering if anyone was going to chime in. It must be a common occurrence.
My surgery is today!!!
Thank you @HelRuth for sharing.
You may also want to check out the previous topic "Can we talk about sex?" (you can use the search bar at the top of this page on the right side above the New Discussion Button)
And as always, check in with your Dr. or NP to see what is suggested for you and share your concerns with them... is it the dryness? is it because of surgery or treatment? or as mentioned, due to time off.... (you may also want to ask them about dilators and about the types of lubricants you are considering, especially for internal use).
Thank you for your guidance. The information in the articles was helpful,especially the info about the bulbocavenous muscle. That seems like the issue for me
yours in better sex ahead
there is an upcoming online session with Desouza institute -cancerchat online support group
Gynecological Cancer Support Group: Restoring Body Image & Sexual Health After Cancer [Click here to join this group]
For many women, a diagnosis of cancer and its treatment can have a significant impact on body image, emotional well-being, sexual health and relationships, even after treatments have finished.
What is the study about? The study purpose is to examine the usefulness of an online support group for women with gynecological or other female cancer, on topics about body image and sexuality. The study will assess the acceptance and effectiveness of the online group, as well as satisfaction of participating in such a group.
The group start date is planned for Monday, January 7th and the group will run for 10 weeks for approximately 90 minutes.
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Please register if you are interested in connecting with other gynecological cancer patients.
Register for this group on or before January 6, 2019.
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